For me, a best friend is a person that would like to help me at any time. When I was in China, I always asked my friends for help and they would give me advice to help me to get out any difficult situation. For example, when my friends saw me look very upset, they used to ask me automatically. I feel that it is what best friends are supposed to be and do, and they are the friends that I can depend on forever. However, the friendships that I have in Chicago are totally different than the friendships that I used to have in China. In the U.S my new friends would not help me automatically unless I asked them for help. All of them are very independent and busy even though they are very friendly to me.
In addition, I used to share my personal secrets with all my best friends. For example, back home we used to get together and share story and after we shared them we would keep it as a secret for each other. We would never expose any personal story because as a best friend we should not expose anyone's secret to strangers. We trusted each other so well. On other hand, the friends that I have in Chicago would not tell me their secret for many reasons. They thought that secret is their own privacy and they are supposed to keep it to themselves. I realized that the friendships that I have in Chicago were not strong as the friendship that I had in China.
Furthermore, when I lived in China, I used to hangout with friends as a habit. Also spending time together would make me feel quite joyful. We could also hangout for any reasons, such as studying together and shopping. However, when I moved to Chicago most of the time I would hangout with my friends at the library. We would read together and spend time doing homework in the library. Sometimes we often have after tea but not all time. Thus, I do miss the free time that spent with my friends in China. Those were profound and unforgettable memories of my life.
I have already realized the reason why I could not make friends in a short time. When I first moved to the U.S, my life was so strange. Maybe it was culture shock that made it very difficult to make new friends. However, now I do have more good friends in Chicago and our relationships are getting stronger than ever. I hope that our relationships will continue to be very strong as always. I do miss all my old friends in China and they are in heart. I do believe that nothing can change our friendship because time can not take our friendship away.